As wonderful as sex is, it can be very difficult to write. How can it be done convincingly? On her blog The Itch of Writing, Emma Darwin gives some useful advice.
I’ve pondered the odd business of writing sex before, but a good post by US writer Sebstien de Castell, about writing fight scenes, made me start thinking about it again. Sex and violence are hard (that’s only the first double entendre) to write because both kinds of arousal involve an altered mental and emotional state which interacts with relatively complex choreography; what happens isn’t built of words even if words are involved. Fiction has the same complexity, because it tells stories through characters-in-action as drama does, but in nothing but words. It evolved so richly because it can evoke and depict consciousness as part of the action, and so there’s always a tension between those two different jobs.